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Jowita Bydlowska has read. Jowita Bydlowska rated a book liked it. Preview — Normal People by Sally Rooney. Quotes by Jowita Bydlowska. Happiness puts you at too much risk - what if you were to lose it? Too much happiness is a paradox. It's a tragedy, even: getting something you've always wanted but being unable to keep it.

To deal with the world tomorrow. Living is difficult. Dying is difficult. They never get that moment, that pause that will be long enough for them to get off. Because that's all it is - for some the train is too fast, some sleep through the stops, some jump off and jump right back on because they forget immediately that this is the death train. I slept, went too fast, forgot Making me strong. So strong that for one moment I could halt the whole fucking train.

See all Jowita Bydlowska's quotes ». Topics Mentioning This Author. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench.

The whiskey sours, screwdrivers, and mojitos that inspired and occasionally got the better of writers like Truman Capote and Edgar Allan Poe.

Drink of Choice: The gin rickey. Fitzgerald reportedly favored gin because it was undetectable on his breath. Of his love for cocktails he famously said, "First you take a drink, then the drink takes a drink, then the drink takes you.

Drink of Choice: Absinthe. Wilde loved absinthe, even though he notoriously said, "After the first glass of absinthe you see things as you wish they were. After the second you see them as they are not. Finally you see things as they really are, and that is the most horrible thing in the world. Accomplishments include: Nobel Prize laureate. He is also the heir to a vast fortune which he is told will only be his if he marries Susan. He does not love Susan, but she will make something of him the family expects.

Arthur proposes but then meets a girl with no money, with whom he could easily fall in love. Not everyone who drinks is a poet, some of us drink because we're not. Did you know Edit. Trivia At one point during the production, Liza Minnelli was supposed to board a bus in front of Bergdorf's on Fifth Avenue. When a real bus came along, she boarded it thinking it was the "movie bus". Not until she was halfway down the block did she realize her blunder when she looked back and saw the whole crew cracking up.

Goofs Linda steals the tie from Bergdorf-Goodman's by itself, yet when Arthur helps her into the Rolls-Royce, he hands her a box that contains the tie; she still has the box with her when Bitterman helps her out of the car. When Arthur and Hobson walk up to Linda during her confrontation with the security guard, Hobson is carrying a bag with a large box in it.

That's the box Linda was given. Since it contains the tie she stole, presumably the tie was put in that box off-camera. Quotes Arthur : Hobson? Hobson : Yes. User reviews Review. Top review. Quite simply the funniest and shiniest film-comedy of all time This one also gets a solid ten on the voting scale.

Millionaire heir, Arthur Bach Moore , is a middle-aged 'child' who refuses to take the mature path in life and avoids all requisite responsibilities. He also refuses to leave the bottle. Annabelle was at first was hard to convince that the program would work, because Wally once brought home an A. Then her own doctor urged her to see Dr.

Finally, her clergyman, J. Wright, got a woman to talk to Annabelle and then made an appointment for her with Dr. This was probably the neighbor Wally talks about in his story. Bob called Maybelle Lucas, wife of Tom Lucas "My Wife and I" and told her to get hold of Annabelle or her husband would be drunk before he was out of the hospital two hours.

Finally Annabelle took Maybelle's advice and let go and let God. Anne Smith also took her under her wing. After his recovery, Wally and Annabelle took many alcoholics into their home. According to Bill Wilson, they had more success with people they took into their home than did Dr. Bob and Anne or Bill and Lois. Wally was Dr. Bob's right hand man for many years, and when he eventually slipped everyone was shocked. He had seemed to be doing everything right and working very hard.

Wally had been very hard on those who slipped and wanted to kick them out, which may explain why it took him a long time to get back, but Annabelle dragged him to meetings. He finally got sober again and stayed sober until his death. His attitude toward those who slip, however, changed. She here tells how she was set free. Wynn joined A.

She was described by the novelist, Carolyn See, one of her several step children, as "tall, and with a face that was astonishing in its beauty. She had "translucent skin with a tiny dusting of freckles, Katharine Hepburn cheekbones, bright red hair, and turquoise eyes. But AA taught her that she was the result of the way she reacted to what happened to her as a child.

She was born in Florida and, like Bill Wilson before her, her parents separated when she was a child, and she was sent to live with her grandparents in the Mid West. She reports feeling "lonely, and terrified and hurt. She married and divorced four times before finding A. The first time she married for financial security; her second husband was a prominent bandleader and she sang with his band; her third husband was an Army Captain she married during World War II; her fourth husband was a widower, with several children.

One A. Sometime after when her story appeared in the Big Book, she married her fifth husband, George Laws, another A. George and Wynn were married for several years and his daughter Caroline lived with them when they were first married. After they were divorced, according to Caroline, she dated a wealthy insurance executive whom she had hoped to marry.

George and Wynn were a popular team speaking at meetings. Then he would defer to Wynn, whose tale was hair-raising. An unloving grandmother reared her in strict poverty. She contracted typhoid fever and hovered between life and death for about ninety days. All her hair and though she would not admit this her teeth fell out.

Her beautiful red hair grew back in and she wore dentures "stuck in so firmly that no one saw her without them. Fear of rejection and its ensuring pain were not to be risked. When she found alcohol it seemed to solve her problems -- for a time.

But soon things fell apart and jails and hospitals followed. When she wound up in a hospital for detoxification, she began to take stock and realized she had lived with no sense of social obligation or responsibility to her fellow men. She was full of resentments and fears. When she wrote her story she had been in A. She had not had a drink since her first meeting, and had not only found a way to live without having a drink, but a way to live without wanting a drink. Wynn believed she had many spiritual experiences after coming to the program, many that she didn't recognize right away, "For I'm slow to learn and they take many guises.

Wynn and Jack P. Jack P. Wynn, too, suffered from cancer and when first diagnosed became very active in the American Cancer Society. Carolyn comments: "Here's the other thing my father wanted, above all else, to write.

My first and second husbands wanted above all else, to write. All I ever wanted was to write. But guess who really got to be the writer? Who's the one in our family, who has actually changed, improved, transformed thousands of lives? Big Book. The girl who lost all her teeth from typhoid when she was in her teens, who slung hash way up into her forties, and who died a cruel death from cancer when she was way too young. She couldn't have done it if she hadn't 'lost nearly all.

When her cancer returned, several years after she had divorced George, she contacted Carolyn trying to reach him because she needed financial help. Carolyn tried to persuade her father to help Wynn. When he refused it upset Carolyn who was genuinely fond of Wynn. Her last words to Carolyn were "I've always loved you," and Carolyn believes she truly did. The Big Book was published in ; the revised, enlarged version came out in Now, the author of "Rum, Radio and Rebellion," page in the revised second edition, stresses themes that seem of the greatest importance to him now - responsibility and gratitude to AA: "It distresses me particularly when I see older members gradually drop out of the picture.

This question has been asked of me on more than one occasion: "If you had it to do over again, would you change your story in the Big Book? Today, after twenty-one years of this new way of life, I will let the story stand, however much I would like to add to it.

I have been very fortunate in having the opportunity to speak at AA conferences, banquets, and state conventions. Join AA and see the world! And here I want to give just a short qualification and spend more time on what Alcoholics Anonymous means to me. Nine years of AA certainly did not qualify me on two subjects I now like to stress not that I am fully qualified on these now, or ever will be : the spiritual part of our program and the responsibility to our group and to AA as a whole.

My opinions on these subjects are not mine alone, but are what I have gathered from many who have been in the program for a long time and are still working it successfully one day at a time. I came into AA in I believed in God, but that was about the limit of my spiritual qualifications.

Actually, I was in the program about three years before I found comfort and deep satisfaction in prayer. Insight gradually came to me through the voices of older members. I became convinced through meditation and prayers Step Eleven that I had neglected one of the most important facets of our program. When we moved into a new home and district several years ago in Pittsburgh, various ministers called inviting us to attend their churches. It became a little embarrassing to my wife at times when the minister was groping around to find out just what our religion was.

One young minister came quickly to the point by asking, "Mrs. W, just what is your husband' s religion? In my years in this Fellowship, I have yet to see a happy member who does not seek and take advantage of the spiritual benefits to their fullest extent.

Our responsibility to our group, to AA as a whole, and especially to General Service is a subject dwelt upon far too lightly by many of our members. It distresses me particularly when I see older members gradually drop out of the picture. Not only do we need their good experience, but they should be grateful enough to carry on the message as their responsibility to the future of Alcoholics Anonymous and, in many instances, to their very own sobriety.

I'll never forget one individual who approached me several years ago. He opened conversation by stating that I probably did not remember him, but six years ago I had brought him to his first AA meeting. He went on to say that it did not " take" until three years later, when he found himself on skid row and remembered me and the meeting I took him to.

He then sought AA again. He had been sober three years and had driven over miles to thank me for showing him the way. That night I gratefully thanked God for my sobriety and my active association with AA. At times like this, I am so grateful that I was at my meeting to extend a welcoming hand.

It could be most distressing to that prospective member if he asked for you and was told, "He never made the grade. As far as we know, he is still drinking.

It could mean that his life was left hanging in the balance. I hate to meet members who consider that they have graduated from AA. They are missing so much! I know now that sobriety is not a destination, but an endless journey. I hastily add: a very beautiful journey. She tells how A. A pioneer woman member of A. Ethel's date of sobriety was May 8, She was the first woman to get sober in Akron.

She came from a very poor family, the oldest in a family of seven. Her father was an alcoholic. They moved from the country to the city when she was at an age where girls want nice things and to be like the other girls at school.

She felt the others were making fun of her, and feared that she wasn't dressed as well as the rest. At the age of sixteen she was invited to spend the summer with an aunt in Liberty, Indiana. Her aunt told her she could have boy friends visit, but that she must stay away from one boy, Russ Macy, his name was Roscoe, but he was called Rollo or Russ , who came from a fine family but drank too much.

Four months later, she married him, even though he drank and he was seven years her senior. She was sure his family disapproved of her because she was from the wrong side of the tracks. They had two daughters, but about seven or eight years after they were married his drinking became so bad that she took her children and went home. She didn't see Russ or hear from him for a year.

She was about twenty-five at the time and had never touched a drop of alcohol. At the end of a year the children received a card from their father, which she kept and cherished. It said "Tell Mommy I still love her. She welcomed him with open arms, though he had little but the clothes on his back. He told her he would never drink again and she believed him.

He got a job and went back to work, and stayed "dry" for thirteen years. By the end of the thirteen years their older daughter was married and she and her husband were living with them and the other daughter was in her last year of high school.

Then one night their son-in-law and Russ went to a prizefight. Russ came home drunk. She told him "The children are raised, and if this is the way you want it, this is the way we'll have it. Where you go I'll go, and what you drink I'll drink.

They went on vacations in the car, drinking all the way. Ethyl did the driving. One Sunday afternoon she got picked up for drunk driving and they both were thrown in jail. On another occasion she got drunk and set the house on fire. In they read something about A. They talked about it and thought there might come a time when they needed it.

She was having a drink in a barroom one day, and told the woman behind the bar she wished she never had to take another drink. She was told to talk to Jack, the owner of the place, whom they had always tried to buy a drink, but who always refused saying he couldn't handle alcohol.

This may have been John Munier, one of the early Cleveland members. Finally, one morning Ethel got in the car and cried all the way to that bar and told them she was licked and wanted help.

But Jack was out and his wife said she would send him as soon as he returned. He soon arrived with two cans of beer one for Ethel and one for Russ. That was their last drink. Men from A. Paul Stanley visited and stressed that they read the Big Book.

So many nicely dressed people were coming in nice cars that Ethyl told Russ: "I suppose the neighbors say, 'Now those old fools must have up and died, but where's the hearse? Jack took them to a meeting at the King School on Wednesday night and introduced Ethyl to some of the wives.

Annabelle Gillam, the wife of Wally Gillam "Fired Again" in the 1st edition , was told to take her under her wing. Ethyl never forgot how she "sort of curled up her nose and said, 'They tell me you drink too. Women had a harder time being accepted in Akron than they did in New York. Perhaps the reason Ethel was accepted is that Russ joined at the same time. Also Ethel weighed pounds, and the wives probably did not consider her a threat.

Her husband was about half her weight and only about 5'2". Ethel gave a lot of credit to Dr. Bob and Anne for their recovery. The Smiths spent at least an evening a week at the Macy's home, and Russ thought Dr. Bob thoroughly enjoyed these visits. She and Russ worked as a team and were very active from the beginning.

Ethel started what may have been the first women's A. Her husband died on September 4, After his death, A. She died on April 9, Heading: "The Story of Dave B.

He married Dorothy Ford on September 1, They had three children and thirteen grandchildren. Travis Dancey, had tried to get Dave to read the Big Book while he was incarcerated in a mental institution. Dave, angry and rebellious, literally threw the Big Book at his would-be benefactor.

Dancey was taken into the military service and when he returned in late and saw Dave, the latter was newly sober in A. Dancey recalled that when he returned, Dave not only dragged him around to A. Dancey went on to become the first Class A. Dave was a tireless twelfth-stepper, who founded the first A. He served as a Class B alcoholic Trustee from to He died on December 9, Defeated by alcohol and pills, he found the way to a new life.

Harris's date of sobriety is believed to be He was a second-generation A. He neither drank nor smoked until he was nineteen years old. He was an honor graduate in high school, and the "good boy" to whom mothers pointed when their sons went astray. He was awarded a scholarship to a famous old eastern college, but began to drink at the end of his freshman year. By junior year he had to transfer to an easier state university to keep his grades up.

He entered dental school, his admission, oddly enough, arranged by the dentist who started A. During his first year there, he married. He went through dental school sober, for the most part, except that he imitated his father's periodic drinking pattern by getting drunk at a few parties and on vacation.

He graduated with honors, but could feel no real responsibility as a father or a husband. Then he served a four-year tour in the Navy, two of which were spent in the Philippines.

He described his life there as "a nightmare of periodic binges on alcohol and pills, adultery, unhappy hours at the dental office, seeing my wife give birth to our second child and have several miscarriages, living in a turbulent household, and making continual attempts to be the respectable dentist, husband, father, and community leader. He had another brief period of sobriety when he went back to his hometown to go into private practice, but it did not take long for the pressures to bring out his immaturity and his insecurity.

By the age of twenty-eight he was well established and had been elected president of a civic club, was a deacon and a Sunday-school teacher, and had a lovely wife and three children. His wife was in the Junior League, and he was on the board of directors of the local center for the mentally retarded. But he had a queasy feeling in the pit of his stomach, which hinted to him that everything was phony.

He had no real peace of mind, nor any gratitude. In less than two years he had lost his practice, his home, his wife and children. He tried the church and psychiatry and finally came to A. He was twenty-nine when he had his last drunk. During that last drunk, which lasted four days, he threatened to kill his children, beat his wife at home and on the church steps, mistreated a child in his office, and ran to a hospital for mental illness to avoid jail.

He came to A. After coming to A. Only A. He went to meetings frequently, listened to tapes and attended A. Most important, it enabled him to go back and start growing up all over again in all areas of his life. He asks at the end of his story, "Why am I alive, free, a respected member of my community?

I was given his full name and hometown. His name is still in the phone book there -- twice actually, the second perhaps his son -- so I have not revealed his full name or hometown. Titled " The Car Smasher ," in the 1st edition, rewritten and renamed for later editions. Who is convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. Dick's date of sobriety according to his story in the 1st edition was the first week of March In his revised story, which appears in the 2nd and 3rd editions, he cites February Perhaps in the 1st edition he was citing the day he left the hospital rather than the date of his last drink.

He was the oldest of three children and his father was an alcoholic. His father died in when he was eight years old. He quit school and went to work. When he was sixteen his mother remarried and he was given an opportunity to go back to school but he did not do well.

He was jealous of his brother, Paul, who did things better than Dick did because he applied himself. When he was eighteen Dick showed off to a group of friends by ordering a martini, extra dry, not even knowing what it was. He drank nine martinis in less than an hour. This was his first drink and his first drunk.

He did not drink again for a year. But blackout drinking had begun at once. He married at nineteen. He tried to control his drinking, but frequently had blackout drunks. He was in the construction business, but lost money, then went into the crude rubber business. He prospered despite his drinking, but the rubber prosperity fell apart in the twenties. His marriage deteriorated and they were divorced.

He began to think he was insane. He didn't want to neglect his children, but he did; he didn't want to get into fights, but he did; he didn't want to get arrested, but he did; he didn't want to jeopardize the lives of innocent people by driving while intoxicated, but he did.

On one occasion when he was hospitalized after a terrible automobile accident, Sister Ignatia stuck her head in the door and told him she thought they might be able to make something human out of his face after all. He was in the hospital fourteen days, but drank again after getting out. One day after a binge he woke to find his brother, Paul, and Dr. Bob at his bedside. When he asked Dr.

Bob if he were ever going to drink again, he answered: "So long as I'm thinking as I'm thinking now, and so long as I'm doing the things I'm doing now, I don't believe I'll ever take another drink. Dick became a very enthusiastic, hard working early member.

He was one of several unidentified people pictured in the March 1, , Saturday Evening Post story, most of whom have their backs to the camera. When a committee was formed to develop plans for the first A. International Conference, Dick was elected General Chairman. However, according to Bill Wilson, he was not, at least initially, in favor of a General Service Conference. Dick stayed close to Dr. Bob until his death. He traveled to the West Coast after Anne Smith's death, to renew old acquaintances.

Dick accompanied him. He wrote Bill Wilson after returning from the trip, reporting on how much good the trip had done Dr.

Bob, but complaining about "well-wishing friends -- one in particular who stayed four hours and damned near drove him nuts. Ironically, while Dick's story was titled "The Car Smasher,"" it was his brother Paul, who died as a result of an automobile accident on September 19, However, both brothers remained completely sober until their respective deaths.

But he found that there was a Higher Power which had more faith in him than he had in himself. Thus, A. Earl's date of sobriety was originally April He had a brief slip in July of He grew up in a small town near Akron, Ohio. Due to his interest in athletics and his parents' influence, he didn't drink or smoke till after high school. All this changed when he went to college, but still he confined his drinking to weekends, and he seemed to drink normally in college and for several years thereafter.

After he left school he lived with his parents and worked in Akron. When he drank he hid it from his parents. This continued until he was twenty-seven. He then started traveling on his job throughout the United States and Canada. This gave him freedom and with an unlimited expense account he was soon drinking every night, not only with customers, but alone. In he moved to Chicago. With the Depression limiting his opportunity for employment, and with a lot of time on his hands, he began drinking in the morning.

By he was going on two or three day benders. His wife became fed up and called his father to take him back to Akron.